Families and Borderline Personality Disoder

Although family members are not the ones with BPD, they must change first so that things can improve. This is despite the fact that they have been the recipients of difficult BPD behaviors for years, did not cause the disorder, and cannot control it. What they have been doing up to now has not worked, including vacillating between leniency and authoritative behaviors. Contracts, boundaries, tough love, rules, punishments, and limit setting do not work.

—Valerie Porr
Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change